Somebody needs to say it, the Duggars’ biggest problem, and their worst mistake, is trying to populate a whole village with their own kids. Things happen in a village that you don’t want in your family. Not to mention that we have enough people already.
I don’t watch the Duggars on TV. All I know about them is what I’ve read every time I get online the last few days. Just about everything I read is critical. My statements are going to be critical, too, but for a different reason.
First let me say, Josh didn’t make a mistake. He obviously knew that what he was doing was wrong. He shouldn’t have done it, and I am in no way belittling his bad behavior.
And yes, technically, the girls were victimized; but apparently they didn’t know it. They weren’t hurt in any way by what Josh did, although the potential was there. The actual harm was in Josh’s mind.
It occurs to me that his biggest mistake may have been telling his parents, and I’d bet half my lunch money that he regrets it now. He should have stopped his wrong behavior, but maybe he never should have told anybody. The girls and the rest of the Duggars simply didn’t need to know and were actually victimized by being told.
Of course, if he thought he needed help to deal with his urges, then he did right to confide in his parents. But getting him help shouldn’t have involved the police and a large part of their community.
When he did tell his parents, they should have kept it mostly in-family, telling as few people as possible. I agree Josh needed counselling, and he got it. He paid for it himself, and that was good. But going to the law? How dumb can you get? I say protect the girls and younger boys and deal with the situation mostly yourself (except for the professional counsellors). (Maybe it’s impossible to deal with such things in a family of that size.)
Josh and the girls and the whole family have been victimized by the revealing of what happened. If it had been kept quiet, as it should have been, nobody but Josh himself would have been hurt.
The Duggars and the rest of us need to realize, not everything needs to be public knowledge.
We live in an age that wants to know. We demand that our politicians tell us everything, even though they never do. Well, there are some things we don’t need to know, and this is one of them.
I know. It’s not my place to tell people what they ought to do. But some people just don’t use good judgement. Now, as a result, they’re being slandered in the media. And for all the wrong reasons.
I understand the Duggars promote Christianity and “family values.” So does failing to reveal this whole thing to the public make them hypocrites? Of course not! As Michelle Duggar says toward the end of this interview, “Every one of us has done things wrong.” We know nobody’s perfect, but we don’t always need to know the details.
Jim Bob “wonder(s) why all this press isn’t going after the system for releasing these juvenile records.”
I wonder, too.